The story behind the vision…
I can remember just like it was yesterday, the moment I found out that my mother had passed away. It was around 6/6:30am on Sunday, December 23rd and I was laying in bed sleep when my Aunt Joyce awakened me by shaking my right foot and then proceeded to tell me “the angel came to get mommy last night.” I remember immediately screaming “No” followed by “but I didn’t get to tell her goodnight.” It was at that moment that my life changed forever. I found myself in this place of loneliness and confusion as I now had to learn how to live a new life, a life of living without my mom on Earth with me. Honestly, when I was faced with this truth, I didn’t know how I was going to make it.
The first few days were kind of a blur. Since my family was at the house for the Christmas holiday my mind stayed occupied.
After our family left reality sunk in and it was time for me to figure out how to adjust and navigate this new life that I had been given.
The first year was truly a journey of ups and downs. There were times when I felt like I was moving forward and then times when I felt like I had taken several steps backwards. Days when I cried and didn’t want to be bothered and other days when I smiled and laughed at memories I had with my mother. At the time I was living at home with my dad so thankfully I wasn’t totally alone but I still felt a sense of loneliness. I felt like I didn’t have anyone I could talk to who could truly relate to what I was going through. He and I handled the situation very differently as he would always say “you can either be bitter or better and I choose to be better” while insinuating that I was being bitter about loosing my mother. Although my dad’s mother was deceased I felt like it was different because he was a male, whereas I was a female and that mother-daughter bond was something different. I had plenty of women whom had lost their mothers who tried to reach out to me and empathize with me but at the time I couldn’t accept those either because I still felt as if they didn’t fully understand as they were in their 40s and 50s and therefore had a longer time with their mom than I had. Here I was 24 years old, I had not gone to grad school, hadn’t fully figured out what career path I wanted to pursue let alone started my career, hadn’t gotten married, had any children, bought a house or any other milestone that you would want your mother to be there for. One night after a Girl Scout meeting a parent asked to speak with me. She said she wanted to let me know that she was thinking of me and understood how I felt because she was 24 years old when her mother passed away. I can remember how in that moment I felt like I had won a million dollars; it was truly an answer to my prayers. We continued to talk via text and would have lunch together from time to time. Having her support really helped me and served as an encouragement for me. Of course I did other things as well, such as therapy, which I will share about one day on this blog, but having her support was definitely life changing me.
Fast forward to now, my mother has been gone for 7 years and a lot has happened during that time. Since then I have seen numerous women whose mother’s have passed away while they were in their 20s and 30s or older and have found themselves in the same state that I was in. I’ve had several people reach out to me when someone close to them lost their mother and asked could I talk with them and offer support. I’ve also had people reach out for ideas of ways they could care and offer support to someone close to them. All of this led me to start Daughters of Mom Angels. God placed this vision in my heart over a year ago and I wrestled with it but more and more I continued to have interactions with women and was able to see how much of a blessing my interactions with them were.
I have very big dreams for this group including events, having guest angel daughter bloggers and other publications so be sure to subscribe so that you can stay up to date as new things evolve. If you are not an angel daughter at this time or you are a male please don’t think that this site isn’t for you because it is. Aside from providing encouragement and a space for angel daughters to connect, I also wanted a space where non-angel daughters could learn more about an angel daughters life that can ultimately help them to be a better friend or family member to someone they know; a space that honors moms, daughters and that relationship; and a space that provided ideas, awareness, hope and encouragement. So here we are, on my mothers birthday, and I am finally jumping in and launching this vision. Thanks for taking the time to visit the site and for joining me on this journey. I pray that Daughters of Mom Angels will be a blessing to all.
